Jul 242017

What a difference a year and a half in Belize makes.

I know, it has been too long since I last posted. It’s been year and a half since Darrin’s death. I thought I could let people know what it takes to get death certificates, and take care of your property and possessions after the death of a loved one abroad.

To be honest, I was in shock for the first few months after Darrin’s death. I thought I could continue with this website and blog. I hoped that I could provide much-needed information for people trying to cope with the death of a loved one here in Belize. The truth is that I couldn’t do it. I fell apart for a while last year.

Belize Memorial for Darrin
After a trip back to the U.S. to see family and friends, and to honor Darrin with a Memorial in the states, I retreated into a kind of self-preservation mode.

I resumed writing my novel, and concentrated solely on that. I tuned out the world and the loss of a man that I treasured through good and bad, thick and thin; our marriage was literally a ‘Till death do us part’ marriage. I still miss him, but I am learning to live again.

Now, I’m ready to start working on this blog, this website, and a new book endeavor for a ‘Guide to Belize on a Widow’s Budget.’

Would you be interested in knowing more about Belize? How to live here on a minimal budget, where are some of the best places to live, retire, visit and play? Where to stay in hotels, where to eat, where NOT to go? What are some of the Pro’s and Con’s of Living in Belize? How do you move here? How do you bring your pets here? What do you need to do to get your Residency, or QRP (Qualified Retired Person) or how to get Citizenship?

Leave me a message and tell me what YOU want to know!

Feb 202016

I know I haven’t posted anything in way too long, unfortunately, there is a good reason for that.

It’s called life and death, in Belize.

I was in the process of putting together another follow-up about the “Best Little Known Restaurants in Belize.” But Something happened. Those who know me personally know what happened.

If you are a follower of our “Discovering Belize” Facebook page, you also know.

On January 27th I lost the love of my life, my heart, my soul, my partner, my beloved husband, Darrin Holley passed away from an acute heart attack. I will be writing about what happens when you lose a spouse in Belize, as a Belizean Resident, and a U.S. Citizen.DarrinandMeatLamanai2002
This is extremely difficult, but I would NOT want someone else to go through and have to deal with what I am dealing with, with out the proper resources, so when I have all of the information compiled, I will write about it. For now, please bear with me as I mourn the greatest loss of my life. I love and miss you Darrin Holley.

In the coming days, I will try to compile all the information and steps needed when you lose a spouse in Belize. First though, I want to encourage every single person reading this – whether you are in Belize or any place else in the world, PLEASE get a Will written! Do not leave your loved ones without a written notification of how you want things to be taken care of, who you want to have what, and how to care for your estate and more importantly, your loved ones!

That said, if your spouse does not have a will, if YOUR name is not on the title of property – of ANY kind, you may face problems with selling or placing your loved ones belonging. Luckily, my name is on most of our titles as an equal, because – Darrin always treated me as an equal. So right now – yes – RIGHT NOW – go find all the documentation you will need to write your will. Go get all of your land, vehicle, or other important titles and paperwork, and get BOTH partners names put on them! It costs, too much? It takes too much time? Death doesn’t care! If you care about your loved ones – DO THIS NOW!

Next post, I will write about the autopsy and funeral process. Look, this is HARD! I didn’t want to have to face these things or go through this, but neither would I want someone else to have to feel like they are forced to jump through hoops at a time when they NEED TO GRIEVE!

To each of you reading this, I wish you much love, and a long and happy life. Unfortunately, this is Life and Death, in Belize.